Are you the Villain?

Everyone has a story and each person has a unique perspective on what has happened in the story of their life. Sometimes, these stories align, but often, they can be vastly different. Who one person perceives as being in the wrong (the Villain), another might see as justified (or the Hero). Are you the villain in someone else's story? At some point, you must become okay with this role. You did the best you could, and that is all anyone can do.

Quote:

As once said, “You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” This quote holds so much truth. The origin of this quote is highly disputed, with attributions to Abraham Lincoln, John Lydgate (an English poet), and in some cases, Mark Twain. You can strive to please people, but not always. You can be there for others, but not constantly. Even if you managed to be present and please someone all the time, it would eventually exhaust you.

Emotional Blinders:

In life, we often view situations through what I call emotional blinders. Our emotions can cloud our judgment, preventing us from seeing situations as they truly are. This is how we can become the villain in someone else's story, and conversely, how someone else can become the villain in ours. Do the best you can with where you are and what you have. Stop worrying about every little detail.

How to Stop Caring So Much About What Others Think

1. Focus on Self-Acceptance:

   • Understand your values and beliefs systems. Accept who you are and what you stand for. When you are confident in yourself, the opinions of others will matter less.

2. Set Boundaries:

   • Learn to say no and set limits. Protect your mental and emotional health by not over-committing to please others.

3. Surround Yourself with Supportive People:

   • Spend time with those who uplift and support you. Positive relationships can help reinforce your self-worth.

4. Practice Mindfulness:

   • Stay present and focused on the moment. Mindfulness can help reduce the impact of negative thoughts about others' opinions.

5. Adopt Emotional Independence:

   • Remind yourself to practice separating yourself from other peoples opinions. You are not defined by others opinions but from your own views. Recognize no one is perfect and our imperfections can many times be our strengths in disguise. You don’t need any other persons approval to be independently brilliant.

In the end, there will always be someone who is dissatisfied, no matter how much you have done for them. Remember, it’s okay to be the villain in someone else's story. What matters most is that you did your best with what you had. Embrace your journey and focus on your growth. Focus on who you are and what you want to change not what others think you need to change. They see very little in the grand scheme of who you truly are, but you can see the whole picture.